I find that a lot of entrepreneurs and just high achievers in general are often driven by a fear of failure, a fear of maybe like being humiliated, doing something embarrassing, what might people think about them.

We undervalue the things that come naturally to us and if something comes really too easily to us, we feel bad charging anyone for it.

Finally, one of our little group walked forward, inscribed some brief designs on the door [with his finger], and mumbled a few words under his breath. I believe that one of the hardest things that’s going on in the planet right now is people who have low emotional intelligence, who are making very ego driven decisions. Well, in this case, if you’re feeling fire in your chest and want to scream, it’s a totally different experience and I might have been encouraged that client to grab a pillow and scream into the pillow because I believe that we want to move this energy pattern out of our system, because what happens is when we don’t feel our uncomfortable emotions, we freeze them in the body, and they’re left unprocessed and stuck in our bodies. Have the resources and team is just to outsource anything that’s outside of your zone of genius, because I do believe we dilute our talent and if we are doing something that feels dull and boring and life-force draining to us, then we’re not going to be coming from our best to our zone of genius, the things that we are actually good at.

For example, would you indulge in ‘shoot the messenger’ – even though all they’re doing is bringing evidence that you choose not to see? For instance, when a client comes to me and says, like, I feel like the board’s going to go with a different decision than the one that I want, I’m really upset no matter what I say that I can’t talk sense into them and they feel like they’re losing control over the situation and that decision is going to go a different way. Whilst undertaking any enquiry, accept every statement at face-value, exactly as if true – whilst keeping one small corner of your mind aware that it isn’t. And really understand what’s the problem they’re solving for and then understanding their ‘why’ will allow me to say, oh, OK, well, do I care about my health?

We’re kind of relearned at an early age that any discomfort is bad, if I’m not happy, something’s wrong. You have no actual verification as to whether either of those events actually took place – all you have is the description itself. You have no actual means of verification or rejection for any of the purported detail provided about those events. And most of what we do in real-time is driven by such self-confirming, self-circular beliefs, if only because there’s no time available for anything else: doubt is often a luxury we can’t afford when we’re working right at the edge of right-here-right-now. It’s identifying the things that feel like play for you and then it’s also looking at the activities that feel like a 10 for you.