On Becoming a Person

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And understanding does mean – almost always – not judging, even if some things seem to you wrong or stupid. With the help of some caring others, I have decided effectively to invest my time in exploring my inner child. It seems to me that we have here a general hypothesis which offers exciting possibilities for the development of creative, adaptive, autonomous persons.

Despair, according to Rogers, doesn't lie in not choosing to be oneself; it lies in choosing to be another than himself.In other words, a rich, full life includes intense experiences of the negative and positive aspects of everyday life.

If you remember well, Sartre’s main idea was rather simply formulated: in humans, “existence precedes essence,” i. If that sounds like something every psychotherapist ever has said to you at least a couple of times, consider it Rogers’ fault. The mistake people made was to try to control all aspects of their experience, with the end result being a personality not grounded in reality.Rogers quotes two authors – Abraham Maslow and Ashley Montagu – as the “solitary voices” of protest against the widely accepted notion that “man is irrational, unsocialized, destructive of others and self. This is why I ultimately think that both of these features of human psychology can produce positive or negative results, depending on the person and context. Supporting this mindset is a space for you to co-habit with uncertainty, with ambiguity, to regard them as roommates. This means, among other things, not acting, listening attentively, refrain from judging, being as honest as possible; or, in a sentence, it means being yourself and letting the others be themselves as well.